There are three solutions to every problem: accept it, change it, or leave it. If you can’t accept it, change it. If you can’t change it, leave it. There are times that people are treating you unfairly, or that it wasn’t your fault, or that life in general is just hard. If someone told you that life is fair, they lied to you. There will always be situations that are not fair, as well as people that will treat you unfairly, at some point, you need to accept this.
Whatever the case may be, every situation offers us 3 choices:
There are so many times that we ‘hang on’ to a situation, overthink it, and obese about it. We blame others, only look at how the situation affected us. There are at least two sides to every situation, sometimes many more sides. If you get stuck with over analysing a situation, take a step back, try to look at it differently.
Once you have taken a different view, you need to choose how you want to deal with it. All too often, we pick one option and lament all the pain it has brought into our life. We blame others, tell everyone about it, it stays with us, keeping negative energy around us and others. Or worse, we secretly hope for the world to decide for us so that we can point fingers when we don’t get exactly what we want. Taking responsibility is tough, but over the long run much less painful. We grow from taking responsibility and carry a lighter load.
Accept it is when change or avoidance are not possible, acceptance becomes your best choice; for peace of mind and reduced stress. So, accept your situation as it and without conditions.
Change it is when you are frustrated with a situation that you have the ability to change. Now this change might be an easy one or a very difficult one. Change needs tools like positive thoughts, self-confidence and lots of encouragement. If you want the change bad enough, you will find a way to make the change.
Leave it, when a situation becomes unbearable, you do not have to stay and endure the pain. Let go and look forward to the inevitable change that follows.
Accepting or changing what you dislike, disagree with or oppose is difficult if you are not open and receptive to the following: 1) People change. 2) You are responsible to people not for them. 3) You are living in the past or the future. 4) You have a closed mind. 5) You are stuck in your perceptions, opinions and beliefs. 6) You believe your “way” is the best or only way. and 7) Your ego is so in control of your life that even though you know you are not right, you can’t or refuse to accept what you can’t change.
That leaves you with your third and final option, you can leave. Now none of this is easy however by choosing one of them, you will be changing your mental state,
As Maya Angelou said, “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.”
Owning your decision is the path forward.