One of the hardest things to realize and accept is that not everyone is going to like you – and that is ok. This is really hard to deal with when you are younger, as you age, you realize it is not as important as you thought.
As we grow up, our parents and those around us tell us how wonderful we are and of course we believe them, why wouldn’t we, we are all wonderful and beautiful. When we are little, life is simple and our world is small. As we become teenagers, life becomes a bit more complicated as we all try to figure out who we are and that is when it really starts – finding out that not everyone likes you. Now there are so many reasons why people do not like you, mostly it is about them more than you, most of the time, especially when you are a teenager.
As young adults starting out in the world with so many unknowns, we try hard to get everyone to like us. When you start a new job, meet new co-workers, we want to make good impressions, make new friends and definitely do not want them to not like us. We all crave acceptance and want others to like us. However, we don’t always like everyone so why would everyone like us, right!
The worst thing you can do is to try to change to get folks to like you. If you are not being the real you then what is the point. When someone does not like us, it somehow hurts our self-esteem and our confidence. We ask ourselves why this person does not like me, I am awesome so why are they not onboard with liking me.
Then it hits you one day, the only person required to like you is You, yes You. You’re not everyone’s cup of tea and neither are they and that’s more than okay. In fact, that’s great because it means we have distinct personalities, original ideas, personal opinions and our own brands of creativity.
Once you make peace with the fact that not everyone is going to like you, you will be surprised how it feels – it is as if a weight has been lifted off of you and you feel freer. You no longer have to hide your real personality or try to conform to a more acceptable version of yourself. When someone does not like me, I think, ‘Wow, they are really missing out!’
You are free to be yourself without judgement from others allowing you to live your best life.
Stay true to yourself,