There are many ways to be brave, like putting on that brave face in a situation or for someone you love, like your child. But how often are you brave for yourself, I mean really brave for yourself. Being brave is incredibly challenging, we want to know the outcome before we start something new, the unknown is scary. We also want to succeed, be an expert or at least good at what we try, right away – does not work that way.
It is easy to keep the same routine, do the same thing day after day and year after year. It is easier to stay than it is to leave, this can be in relation to a job or a relationship. Change is hard and trying new things is just as hard. Everything is hard at first, you need to be brave enough to suck at something new. And be ready to accept that you might fail. Some of my biggest failures turned into something greater than I anticipated. I know everyone says that, but it is true, I’m sure we all have experienced this.
Some of us are fearless or appear to be fearless, just jumping in doing whatever it takes as well as trying new things. I can be what appears to be fearless, I moved to Dallas from a small town in Louisiana when I was 21, all by myself – and this was in the 80s. I have also moved to two foreign countries all by myself too, much later in life which at times seems harder. So even though I might appear fearless, I was fearful but did it anyway.
My first move was to the UK, was so excited as it had been a dream of mine to live overseas, and I made it happen. I loved it, loved my job, traveling all around Europe as well as other parts of the world. But then, less than 1 year in, I lost my job and had to leave the UK within 90 days – I had no place to live or to go. It was very hard and devastating, I felt like a complete failure, but I figured it out. It took me a few months to get it back together and that was with some big setbacks. Luckily, I have a fantastic support circle of friends and family. I moved to Sweden a year later with an even better job which I probably would not have gotten if I had not lived and worked in the UK.
However, I lost my job in Sweden just after the pandemic started, I was not so devastated this time, was a different point in my life and knew I would be okay. Now, in retrospect, this has become a blessing as I started Destination Wellness with Brenda, her brainchild. I have loved every minute of DW and have found new interests and things I love to do that I never would have thought of doing. I have learned from my life lessons that things so happen for a reason, better reasons. I am starting new things professionally and personally. I am trying new things, even at my age, finding new and wonderful loves and interests.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I have been through many difficult days and stages. I doubted myself and had setbacks but I also came through stronger and happier. Remember that saying, ‘the greater the effort, the sweeter the reward’, this is absolutely true! Think about those things you have been wanting to try, don’t think about it anymore – DO IT! (like Nike says). And what’s the worst thing that can happen other than you suck at it, or you fail, not a big deal. On the other hand, you might not be the greatest however you might just find something you love! Remember, life is a journey and you just might come out with great stories to tell.
Be brave enough to suck as something new!