A new year is for new beginnings. Many of us make new year’s resolutions, feel we need to make changes in our life since it is a new year. Often, we start making new plans, majority of us do not follow through on, at least not past January. Change is never easy, big changes are even more difficult, just the idea of change can make us feel uneasy. For some folks, change seems impossible and overwhelming, the sense of uncertainty that makes us feel afraid and hesitant. Once way to start is just a new mindset, taking a new perspective.
I'll share a journey I am on with you. I struggle with tinnitus for over 10 years and it has gotten much worse in my left year over the past year or so. If you are not familiar with tinnitus, is the ringing in the ears, and I mean constant ringing. There are many reasons that cause this but not any real cure. When I was diagnosed, I asked the doctor what I could do to help it, he said ‘background noise’. Well, he was not kidding, silence makes it louder as you can hear it more. To give you some perspective, my left ear constantly sounds like I went to a very loud rock concert the night before.
Since my tinnitus has gotten worse over the past year, I decided to try acupuncture as this is known to help. I went earlier this week, yes in Sweden we can still do things like this, for a session. I had skipped about 3 months for no real reason and felt I needed to get back to it. As I was talking with my acupuncturist, she pointed out to me that I was different in talking with her about it. We discussed further how I was trying to take a new approach to thinking and processing things, not just my tinnitus. I admitted that I was making a conscious decision on my tinnitus along with other things in my life. I'm feeling that by not fighting or being upset that I have tinnitus, I need to be part of the solution to make it better - every little bit just might be what I need to get relief.
We further discussed about focusing on what you can change and trying to accept what cannot in your life. We were reminded of the Serenity Prayer, commonly known by Alcoholics Anonymous, although this is not where this comes from. This was written by American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr in 1932-33, this is actually an altered version of the original.
‘God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference.’
I think all of us can relate to this right now. There is so much we do not have control over however we can control our attitude and reactions. By changing your attitude, you can also change your perspective and start changing your life. Our attitude affects our relationships, happiness, lifestyle, and success. Developing a positive attitude changes everything despite our circumstances. I genuinely believe this, and I know changing my attitude about the pandemic is not going to change the virus however my attitude about it helps me and those around me with dealing with it.
Part of my new beginning is to continue with my positive perspective, find the positive, not the negative. Sometimes you have to accept that some things are what they are and it is best not to waste negative time and energy. Here are two more quotes I will be also be using and not just for people but for situations. Also, I do not plan on trying to change others however I do plan on being supporting and loving.
‘God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it’s me.’
'I will not worry about things I cannot control.'